from my stardust to yours—♡
How did you get here?
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Qualified Shape is a personal blog about becoming a person you actually want to be. It explores mental health, relationships, trauma, spirituality, personal growth, identity, and the messy process of rebuilding a life. It’s part memoir, part reflection, part experimentation—with plenty of “I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing, but let’s figure it out” along the way.
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Because becoming yourself isn't about arriving at some perfect, finished version of who you're supposed to be. We're all shaped by our experiences, relationships, mistakes, beliefs, and choices. Qualified Shape is about examining those shapes—and deciding which ones are worth keeping.
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Kind of. Mental health is a significant part of the conversation, but it isn't the whole conversation. The blog also explores relationships, divorce, abuse, grief, spirituality, addiction, self-worth, adulthood, creativity, habits, and figuring out what comes next.
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Yes. A lot of it is. Qualified Shape is rooted in lived experience, which means some posts are deeply personal. Names, details, timelines, and identifying information may sometimes be changed or omitted to protect other people's privacy.
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Sometimes. I don't believe difficult experiences need to be hidden simply because they're uncomfortable to talk about. At the same time, I try to write about them with intention rather than turning trauma into entertainment.
Some posts may contain discussions of abuse, grief, addiction, depression, sexual assault, or other difficult subjects. Please use your own judgment about what you're ready to read.
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Definitely not.
Life is too weird for that.
There will be vulnerable essays, uncomfortable realizations, existential crises, questionable decisions, humor, profanity, and occasional moments where the only reasonable response to something is “well, that was fucking terrible.”
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No. Qualified Shape is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, or professional mental health advice. I'm writing from my own experiences, research, mistakes, observations, and conversations with professionals—not presenting myself as an expert who has everything figured out.
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Absolutely not.
That's sort of the point.
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Anything that falls somewhere between “I have been thinking about this way too much” and “Maybe somebody else needs to hear this too.”
Common themes include:
Mental health and emotional regulation
Depression and executive dysfunction
ADHD and productivity
Trauma and healing
Divorce and leaving unhealthy relationships
Love, attachment, and relationships
Grief and loss
Addiction and sobriety
Spirituality and religion
Feminism and the ways we're shaped by society
Self-worth and identity
Personal growth
Fitness, food, and taking care of your body
Creativity
Adulthood and figuring out what the hell you're doing
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Yes—but not the “wake up at 4:30 AM, drink celery juice, journal for six hours, and become a billionaire” version.
I'm more interested in sustainable growth: getting out of bed when depression says not to, learning how to regulate your emotions, setting boundaries, cleaning the damn house, leaving relationships that hurt you, figuring out what you actually believe, and learning how to build a life you don't constantly need to escape from.
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People who are figuring themselves out.
People who have survived things they didn't think they'd survive. People rebuilding after relationships. People questioning what they were taught. People who feel behind. People who are tired of pretending they're fine. People who are healing, changing, deconstructing, rebuilding—or simply trying to make it through Tuesday.
Basically: people who are becoming.
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You probably will.
I'm not trying to create a space where everyone agrees with me. I'm trying to create a space where people can think.
If something I write makes you reconsider an assumption, examine your own experience, or see something from another perspective, then I consider that a success—even if you ultimately disagree with me.
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Please do.
One of the things I love most about personal writing is what happens when one person's story makes someone else feel less alone. If something I've written resonates with you, I'd love to hear about your experience.
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Absolutely. If there's a question you've always wanted someone to explore—or something you think deserves a brutally honest conversation—you can send it my way.
Tchotchkes
things I’ve made that you can keep.
A cute little zine I made (62 pages) bursting with ideas on ways to improve your life.
Covering topics on building discipline, time management, tracking goals, executive planning, habit stacking, ADHD workflow, burnout prevention, self-compassion, nutrition, and OVERALL, how to be happier when it seems like nothing in life is going right.
Made in Canva featuring my own art in addition to royalty free clipart.
Thanks for looking!
Hours of research and graphic design culminate in this beautiful booklet honoring the Grecian Goddess Aphrodite. Featuring 62 pages of original prayers, correspondences, and journal prompts to aid your journey toward self-love and compassion.
Made in Canva featuring my own art and acquired royalty free art.
Hail Aphrodite <3